Caregiver Holiday Blues Got You Down? Simple Ways to Find Your Joy

December 8, 2009 at 11:09 pm 1 comment

Christmas tree and tinsel, lawn lights, Carolers, egg nog and bows…all that fa-la-la-la-lah can sometimes have the opposite effect and send a caregiver into a funk. 

It’s not that you mean to be a Scrooge, but caregiving during the holidays can trigger a lot of “Ghosts of the Past–and Future,” (otherwise known as regret and worry) not to mention even more work to your already sleep deprived self. It’s hard to muster up a cup o’ cheer when you’re overwhelmed and you’ve got six dozen cookies to make for the neighborhood party in two days.

First, take a minute to figure out what’s really bugging you.

 Is it all the extra work–or is it that you’re worried that this might be your last Christmas together. Sometimes our frustration and fussiness is really covering up fear. But facing that fear and taking a minute to breathe deep can make it less scary.

Next,  figure out what you like best about the holidays.

You might like snow globes. And gingerbread men. If that’s Christmas to you, then only set out your snow globe collection. Who says you need a tree? Spend one afternoon making gingerbread dough and then freeze it. Plan another day when you and your spouse or elder-parent can decorate your gingerfbread men. Set up a card table by the fireplace and put all the sprinkles and candies in little bowls. Put on a Perry Como rendition of White Christmas and enjoy that one day.

Most caregivers have so much on them already that we have to find ways to make Christmas or Chanukah easy–so we don’t wind up resenting it. Let go of the three-feet long to-do list and only do what brings you joy. When you  share your new ways to celebrate the holidays–simple and easy–you’ll find that other people admire you for bucking the over-priced, over-worked system. You could start a trend.

None of us know how many holidays we have left. Spending them with those love, really being present, and making good memories is what it’s all about.

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  • 1. leocorion  |  December 21, 2009 at 11:29 pm

    Re: Useful Bacteria in the Human Body?

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    Aspirin is used to turn off the Immune System, and that is why the Doctor will tell you to take an aspirin and call him in the morning. He knows that by morning the viruses will have multipled and you will need him
    Leo Corion | Homepage | 12.21.09 – 1


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Hi, I'm Carol O'Dell. This blog will include stories and lessons I've learned while caring for my mom, and now as I speak to caregivers around the country. I hope to offer suggestions, ideas and insights that will help others.

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