The Day I Faced That my Mom Had Alzheimer’s

February 16, 2010 at 10:28 pm 2 comments

I didn’t realize I had been avoiding. That’s why they call it avoiding. I was already caregiving my mom but I believed her excuses because I so wanted her life–and if we’re being honest–my life not to change. I had dealt with the fact that she had Parkinson’s and heart disease. I hadn’t faced the fact that my mom had Alzheimer’s.

Punch in the gut.

I was scared. How do you care give a person with physical–and neurological issues? How wild was it going to get? Could I handle it?

I was heartbroken. I thought we had more time. I thought it was hard enough already. I hurt for her, how lost she felt, how nothing seemed to comfort her. 

It made sense. The confusion, agitation, paranoia, the million little things started to add up. We had been dancing around this for months and months.

I knew I had to get educated. I knew I needed a plan. But like most huge things, from the moment I didn’t know to the moment I did, nothing cataclysmic had changed. She was still my mom. I would give her the next dose of meds, make her dinner, and then we’d watch a bit of television.

The changes would come in the next few weeks. I’d go online, make some phone calls, schedule a doctor’s appointment.

I didn’t know what was up ahead. Not the specifics. I’m glad I didn’t.

Yes, there were rough times and sweet times.

The day I faced Alzheimer’s was in some ways a relief–and a re-committment.

Whatever was to come–we’d face together.

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2 Comments Add your own

  • 1. nauri  |  February 17, 2010 at 5:56 pm

    Punch in the gut describes the feeling so well. When we could no longer pretend the problem was just Mom being Mom… ugh! We’d come to terms with Dad’s Alzheimer’s. Mom, too? Now what? And, HOW?!?! What an incredible journey it has turned out to be. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone, but I wouldn’t trade the experience for anything.

  • 2. Steve  |  February 18, 2010 at 1:31 am

    So eloquently stated, nauri–“wouldn’t wish it on anyone but I would trade the experience for anyhing.”
    That’s caregiving in a nutshell.
    Thanks for reading.
    ~Carol O’Dell


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Hi, I'm Carol O'Dell. This blog will include stories and lessons I've learned while caring for my mom, and now as I speak to caregivers around the country. I hope to offer suggestions, ideas and insights that will help others.

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